It’s happening for me, not too me?
When I heard that for the first time, I literally laughed out loud.
Are you kidding me?
But I’ve come to realise that our greatest learnings usually come from our most difficult experiences. It just takes a while before the lessons reveal themselves 😂.
Since then I’ve often thought…. can’t I just bypass the difficult bit and learn the lesson now please?
Sadly, that’s not how it works.
When I ask clients what they have learned from the worst events in their life, they often struggle to find anything positive in such terrible circumstances. But when we think it through together, there is always some huge learning that has come out of it. For example, learning that we are stronger than we thought we were, or that we just needed to put some clearer boundaries in place. I have personally learned that I am capable of so much more than I thought I was, and definitely more than what other people tried to make me believe.
Test it out for yourself. Have a think back on your life, what are you doing now or what do you have now that you wouldn’t have if that difficult experience had never happened?
On reflection, you might just find that your difficult experiences happened for you…. and not to you.